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On the JJ Barnes Blog, while I’ve looked for the answer in many different places, now I’m wondering if I’ve found the perfect questions as now I’m asking do orgasms make you sleep better?
Have you ever wondered if there’s a hidden connection between pleasure and peaceful slumber? While I’ve experienced the post-coital bliss of drifting off into a deep sleep, I’ve often dismissed it as a mere coincidence. But what if there’s more to this nighttime ritual than meets the eye?
Recent studies suggest that women, on average, fake orgasm 39 times annually, with some admitting to faking every single one within their relationships. This alarming statistic raises concerns about the potential health consequences and the long-term implications for relationships that may arise from unfulfilling sexual experiences.
With the help of, James Wilson aka ‘The Sleep Geek’ at Mattress Online, I decided to explore the impact of orgasms at night, share tips on how to boost your chances of getting there, and reveals how your under-the-covers activities can enhance sleep quality.
Do Orgasms Make You Sleep Better?
1. Oxytocin, the “love hormone”
Orgasms trigger the release of oxytocin, a hormone often referred to as the “love hormone.” This natural mood booster can help counteract the effects of cortisol, the stress hormone. After a particularly stressful day, the surge of oxytocin from an orgasm can help you unwind and relax, making it easier to disconnect from work worries and enjoy a restful night’s sleep.
Oxytocin promotes a sense of tranquillity, putting us in the relaxed state we need to fall asleep.
-James Wilson
2. Serotonin, the “happy hormone”
The euphoric sensation experienced during an orgasm is partly attributed to an increase in serotonin levels. This neurotransmitter plays a key role in the production of melatonin, the hormone that regulates our sleep-wake cycle. While increased serotonin can contribute to the onset of sleep, it’s important to note that it can also have the opposite effect. Serotonin can promote wakefulness and inhibit REM sleep, the stage of sleep associated with dreaming and cognitive restoration.
3. Prolactin
While prolactin is primarily known for its role in milk production, it also plays a significant role in sexual health and sleep quality. Prolactin levels naturally rise as we approach bedtime, and orgasms can further elevate these levels for up to an hour afterward. This increase in prolactin can contribute to quicker sleep onset and improved sleep quality and duration.
Prolactin is particularly effective in inducing REM sleep, the stage of sleep associated with dreaming and cognitive restoration. Research suggests that partner-assisted orgasm may lead to higher prolactin levels compared to solo masturbation. However, it’s important to note that masturbation may not be equally effective for everyone.
Whether you can achieve a similar effect through masturbation depends on the individual, as some may not experience the same effects with a partner as others do. In theory, masturbation could have a similar effect, but the emotional connection with a partner plays a significant role; feeling in love and emotionally safe can make us feel more relaxed and ready for sleep.
-James Wilson
4. Release of physical tension
Orgasms trigger a cascade of physiological changes that promote relaxation. Muscles throughout the body relax, releasing tension and physical discomfort. This deep state of relaxation makes it easier to unwind and transition smoothly into a restful night’s sleep, free from interruptions.
5. Natural pain relief
The body’s natural painkillers, endorphins, surge during orgasm, offering relief from headaches, muscle aches, and other discomforts that can disrupt sleep. This natural pain relief promotes overall physical comfort, allowing the body to relax and enter a deeper, more restful sleep.
6. Enhanced mood and comfort
A fulfilling sex life, characterized by genuine orgasms, can significantly enhance both physical and emotional well-being. Regular sexual activity boosts libido, strengthens emotional intimacy, and fosters a deeper connection between partners. This increased closeness and sense of security can create a more comfortable and relaxing sleep environment, leading to improved sleep quality.
A well-established nighttime routine, designed to promote relaxation and intimacy, can further elevate the benefits of a satisfying sex life and contribute to a more restful night’s sleep.
In the hour before bed, focus on activities that promote relaxation—such as taking a bubble bath, listening to soothing music, or watching a funny or romantic film together.
-James Wilson
Adrenaline Booster
When inducing orgasms, aim to keep physical activity moderate; being too vigorous can trigger sleep-reducing hormones like cortisol and adrenaline. I’d recommend aiming for a performance level of about 2 out of 5—nothing too physically intense, as I’m sure we’re all capable of that!
-James Wilson
How To Get Better Sex And Better Orgasms
1. Keep your bedroom clear and free of clutter:
A cluttered bedroom can stifle both libido and sleep quality. To create a serene and inviting space, prioritize regular decluttering, ensuring each item has its designated place. Consistent tidying and periodic deep cleans can transform your bedroom into a haven of relaxation, promoting both restful sleep and a heightened sex drive.
2. Curate a sexy environment:
Creating a cozy and intimate atmosphere in the bedroom can significantly enhance both sleep quality and sexual desire. Soft lighting, provided by candles or mood lamps, can set the stage for relaxation and intimacy. Additionally, diffusing essential oils like sandalwood, ylang-ylang, and lavender can promote relaxation, reduce stress, and elevate mood, creating an ideal environment for both physical and emotional intimacy.
3. Banish pets before sex:
While sharing your bed with a furry friend can offer comfort and companionship, it can sometimes create challenges when it comes to intimacy with your partner. To strike a balance, consider setting boundaries around bedtime. By creating a designated sleep space for your pet, you can maintain a harmonious household while preserving precious moments of intimacy with your partner.
4. Avoid external stress:
To optimize your sleep quality and enhance intimacy, consider incorporating a calming wind-down routine into your evenings. Activating Do Not Disturb mode on your phone can help minimize distractions. Additionally, establishing a shared screen-free hour before bedtime, indulging in soothing herbal teas, and practicing relaxation techniques like stretching or reading can create a serene and conducive environment for both restful sleep and intimate moments.
5. Communicate with your partner and spend quality time together:
To maintain a strong emotional connection, prioritize daily check-ins before bed. Dedicate time to share the day’s experiences, both positive and negative. This shared vulnerability can strengthen your bond and alleviate stress, creating a more relaxed and intimate atmosphere. By addressing individual stressors before unwinding with entertainment, you can ensure that you both start your evening on the same page, fostering a deeper connection and a more peaceful night’s sleep.
Conclusion
While more research is needed to fully understand the complex interplay between sex, sleep, and hormones, the evidence suggests that orgasms can indeed contribute to improved sleep quality. By reducing stress, promoting relaxation, and influencing hormone levels, orgasms can create a more conducive environment for restful sleep.
Remember, a healthy sex life is an integral part of overall well-being. Prioritize intimacy, explore what works for you and your partner, and enjoy the benefits of a good night’s sleep!
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